“DIY” ~ My Life’s Soundtrack

This song dropped this morning at 12:00 AM EST and I had already fallen in love with it when I saw a teaser for the first verse on Instagram. It is gritty, and foul mouthed, and raw, and has so much ugly truth that too many women I know understand.

There are women who get the apple from the top of the tree and then there are women who pick the highest of the low hanging fruit.

It hit me hard in the gut and I felt every word while I laughed and couldn’t help but dance along. This song goes out to anyone who has ever dated or married a man who wanted you to be his mommy, and lover, and maid, and punching bag, and ATM, and who wanted you to be committed to him unquestioningly and unwaveringly while he fooled around, wasted your time, lied, gaslit, and whined that somehow it was your fault. To you, you know who you are:

It wasn’t your fault…
You know the truth no matter what he says to you or anyone else…
You did the best you could with what you knew…
And now you know better.

You deserve all the good things he wasn’t.

“DIY”

Songwriter: Stela Cole

Stela Cole, American Song Contest, 2022

I’ve been doing wife shit, mmh
And you ain’t even put a ring on it (nope)
At first I didn’t mind it, until you took advantage and took me for granted
You said you didn’t need me, careful with your wishes
‘Cause I’ll be fuckin’ with your head like it’s rent free
Go cry to one of your side bitches

You can curse my name and say “look at this mess you made”
But I think we all know that you’re the one who’s misbehaved
Say you can’t live without me, oh my God, that’s such a shame
If you’re a grown ass man like you say you are
Get a job, get a car and get your shit togeter like

DIY, do it yourself
DIY, you don’t need my help
DIY, don’t you get off my back and fuck yourself
DIY, do it yourself
DIY, you don’t need my help
DIY, don’t you get off your ass and fuck yourself, woah

While you’ve been crying and counting’ sheeps
I’ve been catching up on my beauty sleep
But I guess you’re really missin’ when I’m on my knees
Then you turned to a creepy lil sneaky lil freak
Up in my DMs, texting my friends
Validating every reason I don’t ever wanna see your face again
Na na na na, na na na no

You can curse my name and say “look at this mess you made”
But I think we all know that you’re the one who’s misbehaved
Say you can’t live without me, oh my God, that’s such a shame
If you’re a grown ass man like you say you are
Get a job, get a car and get your shit together Mr. Superstar
I believe in you

DIY, do it yourself
DIY, you don’t need my help
DIY, don’t you get off my back and fuck yourself
DIY, do it yourself
DIY, you don’t need my help
DIY, don’t you get off your ass and fuck yourself

DIY, you got this babe
DIY, have you tried calling your mom? Mhm
DIY, I believe in you

DIY, do it yourself
DIY, you don’t need my help
DIY, don’t you get off my back and fuck yourself
DIY, do it yourself
DIY, you don’t need my help
DIY, don’t you get off your ass and fuck yourself

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To every survivor who got out, I’m proud of you. Keep thriving.

To everyone looking for what you need to get out, I believe in you. Do not give up.