Trauma and the Hero

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  1. Very well stated.
    We all have our ghosts. Soldiers have a different type that never leave and can not be shared. Bless all the souls who are chased by demons. I hope they are able to see the blue sky and smell the flowers on some of the better days. There are people who do care, even if they don’t know us.

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  2. Trauma, unfortunately, has a tendency to be quantified. The impact of one’s trauma is such a personal thing that there is no way one should judge another’s handling of that trauma. I cannot begin to fathom the impact to our nation’s children (yes they are children) that have born the brunt of our military machinations. I know the streak of pride we men are supposed to live by, and it is so often undoing. Then, the fallout from that spreads even further. Unfortunately you are correct. It is still up to the individual to accept the need to come to terms with that trauma. No one can do it for them.

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    1. That is one of the true horrors in this world, that soldiers are almost always still in their teens. These are not adults. These are not people who know how to deal with seeing such atrocities as war puts in front of them. These are children still being molded and now having acid thrown in their faces and on their backs to live with forever. What kind of people are we? How do you help them to deal with the horrors and traumas that follow them home?

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      1. Their age doesn’t matter. Even those who join later in life and go to war have the same issues.

        Trauma is a equal opportunity offender and it will impact everyone who encounters it in life. I admit that I’ve laughed at what has traumatized others because their experiences seem to be so pale in comparison to the trauma that has been brought to my home.

        Trauma of war is real and it is difficult to address in a society as a whole and in a culture (military) where the hero believes he is supposed to be strong enough to handle everything without showing “weakness”.

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      2. You are correct. I think of my brother who went in at 18. Anyone involved in a war or anything else that is that ugly to the mind and takes lives has to change a person. The trauma comes when everyone treats them as if it never existed nor will it. The person is then in quicksand. I wish we would treat and train all our “warriors” before they go in. As you said, not all trauma is from the war. We must learn to treat and give to these ones before their lives are ruined. Being a whole person sure beats being a hero.

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      3. Not all military leadership is bad or unhealthy. In certain units they may seem to be worse, while in others they seem to be better; that is no different than any other career field or workplace and it is unrealistic and a further injustice to expect that the military will be free from the same workplace issues that are prevalent everywhere else in society.

        It’s easy to paint them with a broad brush of judgment based on what we know but unless you’ve taken time to know them personally it’s blind ignorance. I have known some truly compassionate and caring human beings who are military to the core and who strive to change the parts of the culture that need changing and I’ve also known some absolute rats. For the worst of those I’ve seen in the military world, they pale to the worst I’ve seen in the civilian world. It’s just easier to look at and judge them based on the microcosm that exists under the umbrella of “the military”.

        Any time you’re tempted to judge anyone in the military ask yourself who would leave a career and then devote endless time and monies to helping others who had the same career? Do you know anyone else who left a job or business and then devoted every minute of free time to other current or former employees for the same company? Only the military embodies that constant drive to love and lift up your brothers regardless of the cost to self.

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    B J Lewis

    Get a grip! I’m expected to succeed,
    face fear, be strong, and take the lead,
    not hesitate in thought or deed.
    My mask must never slip.

    Man up! and keep my thoughts inside
    No one can know how much I cried
    when the rockets came and the fear arrived.
    My mask must never slip.

    Crack on! theres no time to reflect
    or admit that I did genuflect
    and prayed to God, me to protect.
    My mask must never slip.

    Chin up! Worry not ‘bout how I feel
    never let them know just how surreal
    it was. Dark thoughts I cant reveal.
    My mask must never slip.

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