Unveiling a new look for The Kintsukuroi Life…
Some months ago, I was having a quiet conversation with someone who’s perspective on things always leaves me looking at the world differently. They say that iron sharpens iron and we are sharpened by the company we keep. There are those whose presence and friendship is a whetstone for our souls, refining our thinking and perspective, purposefully or not, in such a way as to help us become the best version of ourselves: a friend of the soul. Well, this individual is that person in my life and we were talking about upcoming transitions in our lives when he said something that struck me and that, like many seeds unwittingly sown, took root almost immediately when he referred to the next phase of his life as “not a new chapter, but a new book.”
Quite the golden nugget of wisdom to toss into the deep well of a writer, no?
We always talk about turning a new page and starting a new chapter in life but he talked of starting an entirely new book after finishing and closing the old one. I don’t think he meant that we simply forget or forsake the past, the wisdom we gain from it, and all the things we have learned from it but rather that we should be willing and able to step away from everything that once was, what did and did not serve us, to create something new.
I don’t know if he has realized yet how deeply this seed took root and how often I’ve thought of that new book that awaits me when this volume is through.
When we close a chapter on a life event or a relationship, on a dream or experience, the following chapters can open us back up to those things again and bring them back for a surprise plot twist later on in the same book. But I don’t want the return of any of that darkness, I want to find new darkness for the heroine to face, new problems, new battles. It isn’t that I don’t want peace in my life but rather that I’m ready to face problems that are different than the ones I’ve been facing for so many years. A new book is necessary. The people who have written themselves out of the story of my life, and those I’ve written out, had bloody well stay written out because they’re not welcome in the new story. I’m sorry. (Actually, no, I’m not sorry.) The people who I’ve kept in the list of main characters can go with me. The villain, well, he’s done for in the old book too because this is not some ongoing saga that will follow with three to seven books in a series where at the end the antagonist finally loses once and for all. Nope. Not interested.
A new book is necessary for the new life I’m walking into as I finish tying up all the loose ends in this one.
Several people have asked if I would be shutting down this blog and starting a new one. The answer is no; the stories here that have to do with the trauma that brought me to where I am are important. Nevertheless, I think it is altogether appropriate to mark the transition in some way. In honor of this transition and the new book I’m stepping into, I decided to unveil an updated look here with a slight rebranding of the purpose:
Kintsukuroi is not about highlighting the imperfections to show them off but realizing a thing is beautiful because it is not perfect and the imperfections can make it more beautiful than it would be otherwise.